Most alleged “pick up” or “hook-up” guides are a total crock. They seldom do more than anecdotally describe to you what the author supposedly did to entice some attractive lady into the sack. What they don’t provide are realistic rules of conduct that you need in order to become successful.
Admittedly, I think I know what some of you might be thinking, “What the hell is he doing reviewing a book on seduction?” Well, I consider that more of a fringe benefit than anything else; the actual reason I am covering it is that I understood how easily most of the rules (including the Six Basic Conversation Techniques) can be also used in a platonic social setting. If the Patriot Community needs training in anything, it would be in basic diplomacy.
The first dozen or so rules have to deal with what you’d probably consider “common” sense (which, unfortunately, ain’t so common). Opening a conversation with a total stranger, following up on it, looking your target in the eye and smiling, asking for her name, and selling yourself are all easy ways to ingratiate yourself in the eyes of your selected person of interest. Learning from your mistakes, arriving early instead of late, saying hello, and physically being in shape are simple yet effective means for getting out of your socially confining comfort zone and expanding your horizons.
Those Six Basic Conversation Techniques are especially pivotal, regardless of whether you are operating in a platonic or romantic (sexual) context. They are:
- Asking questions
- Being self-disclosing (but not narcissistic!)
- Rephrasing what your target has just said
- Using silence
- Using commands & suggestions (politely!), and
- Interpreting what your target has just said
The types of questions you want to ask are open-ended, not close-ended (that is, questions that can’t be answered with a simple “Yes,” or “No,” as opposed to those that can). This will lessen the probability that the conversation will hit a brick wall, since the target will have to give some level of detail to you in order to not appear socially awkward (this works in your favor since even if the details given are scanty, this can open up to you either follow-up questions or the use of the other methods).
If you sparingly mention some things about yourself, the target might be intrigued enough to pick up on that and expound upon it, thereby drawing you two closer. By rephrasing what has just been said, you demonstrate that not only were you actually listening, but also that you understood it enough to encourage a stronger repertoire than you had a moment ago. Silence should be used sparingly when needed, and preferably with body language in such as way as to pressure your target to speak something, anything. Suggesting your target to do something (or more importantly, politely commanding her) requires a deft touch after you’ve been talking awhile. Finally, interpreting what she just said can provide even more benefits than if you had just simply rephrased the content, for even if you get it wrong, it’s not really a bad move since she will correct you (thereby giving you details to work with), unless you so completely misunderstood that you totally turned her off.
What really appealed to me about this book was its Ten Day Plan of Action. It is literally a training program whereby you incrementally (albeit quickly) practice your social skills to the point where your experiences (both good and bad) increase your confidence, which is really the whole point of this cumulative exercise. Obviously, I’ll stress again that it can be used in a platonic context, especially if you combine it with the tactics described in Disguise Techniques and Methods of Disguise.
Nick McLaren’s 50 Secrets of Picking Up Girls: How to Meet the Girl of Your Dreams is a book I highly recommend to political dissidents, if for no other reason than the social skills it painstakingly highlights what can be used in a variety of scenarios that have nothing to do with seduction (such as group meetings, training exercises, or vetting potentially viable personnel mano-a-mano). Typically, what police officers tend to look for in questioning suspects is any sort of nervous of fidgety behavior; if you can practice in a comparatively less stressful social environment, then you can perfect your ability to remain cool under pressure, which necessarily requires practiced confidence. It also teaches you how to behaviorally become a chameleon, which just might come in handy if you are either in hiding or otherwise need to keep a low-profile.